(28/F), (30/M). Sneaked into my bf’s phone and found out that he’s planning to go to a spa place with happy ending (sexual act). How Do I confront him?
H! I’m a 27/F, my bf is 30/M. We’ve been officially together for almost 2 years and decided to be a lived-in partners for 1 and 1/2 year. We’re always together 24/7. We always make sure to give time to each other.
Our relationship in a nutshell: we are a happy couple and based on our experiences together, we’re mature in handling our relationship. Our communication is open and our sex life is extraordinary. We also prioritize each other. In short, we are lovers and best friends in one. Our relationship dynamics is extraordinary.
However with this particular matter, I don’t know how to tell this to him.
We’ve been away with each other for 3 weeks because I went on a vacation at my relatives house. This is the only time that we’re apart. Prior to that, we’re always together 24/7.
And when I got home, my gut keeps telling me to sneak on his phone, so I did it while he’s sleeping.
I found out when I read the conversation with his friend that he’s been asking around the best spa place (with happy ending) in the area.
Basically, he wants to have a massage with a sexual act in the end in a massage place whilst I’m away for a while.
Though I’m 100% sure that he wasn’t able to go to a spa place because he’s been busy at work and we’ve been video calling each other most of the time. Also, we are open to track each other’s location so that we can monitor each other (for safety purposes). Based on his location and out video calling everyday, he have not been to any spa place.
BUT just his thought of planning to go there hurts me the most. and it’s giving me red flags if i would still want to settle in with him because we really do have a lot of plans in the future.
I also understand that privacy is really a thing.
Although in our case, at the start of our relationship he gave me an authority to just go through his phone whenever i feel like to and for my peace of mind.
But for me, it feels like i have invaded his privacy because i read his conversation with his guy friend.
Can you give me an advice on how would i handle this situation or how will i confront him about it?
Source: Reddit.com
Summary
This is a post on Reddit where a 27 year old woman is having trouble with her 30 year old boyfriend. The couple has been together for almost 2 years and have been living together for a year and a half. The girlfriend feels that they have a very close relationship and they communicate openly. However, the girlfriend recently went on vacation and while she was gone, she snuck through her boyfriend’s phone and found messages where he was talking to a friend about getting a massage with a happy ending. The girlfriend is unsure about how to confront her boyfriend because she feels like she invaded his privacy, but she is also hurt by his actions.