Wife(f20) threw my(M23) pc and broke it in a fit. THINGS SUCK but we have a child under 1 year. Is there a way that I can correct or manage this?Is it best to stay or leave? And if so, how?
Last night my wife got into a fit. We have a lot going against us: married young, kid early, money struggles.
She was never a go getter, I’ve always wanted to be the top of everything, the best of the best and blah blah blah. That being said, the past 3 years has been me working to provide for the house and her. Fast forward to our child being born, times of course start getting complicated financially due to my place of employment being a shith0le. Blah blah blah back story.
Since her being a SAHM, she’s been a nightmare. There were multiple occasions of her trying ti rip our child from my arms when shes trying to nap and demanding me to give her to her because “she needs her”. During those times I’ve had to push her away with my feet and legs while holding my child. (It typically occurs when I’m sitting down so getting up and moving isn’t the easiest)
That has since stopped. But she has now moves to throwing my things, she’s even thrown my old xbox out front of the house before. Yesterday rolls around and we both got new jobs, she picked up a job where she’s working 12 hour shifts for $20/hr.
I started mine today with $25/hr +commission.
She starts to stress about the days we don’t have child care covered before saying she is doordashing, comes back in 10 minutes later demanding my phone to use because hers was “having issues” ( it told her to turn location back on, she just used it fine the day before. I just thought about that being weird as I typed this.)
Anywho, she starts yelling and demanding that I quit my job because I’m ” not doing my job as her father by only watching our daughter for 2 days” when it’s because I have work?
She demands that I quit my job because she’s been home for the past 3 years working around ME. When I have been begging her to work and she left her ACTUAL job to pursue a pyramid scheme after we all told her it was a scam and she didn’t listen.
But I am trying to calm her down in that moment by answering anything I can and telling her we will figure this out, but quitting is not an option. It is a sales job and she then tells me to DEMAND Saturday off from my job. (My first day is today, this occurred yesterday. I asked for $25/hr and they gave it to me) tells me her job is more important and it’s her turn and then stood there for 30 min demanding me to quit or tell my boss I NEED Saturday or “she’s done with me and done running circles with me”
Fast forward 30 minutes of this and her unrelenting, she shoves my pc off my desk across the room. (Breaking it of course)
Later that night as I’m trying to fix it, I say a part has power and she tells me that she’s “actually upset to hear that it still works.
Update: (It doesn’t work anymore. This is bigger than the computer.)
Honestly, I hate my life, I hate my wife, I hate my situation. But I have a daughter that I love with every ounce I can, and I know her mom is gonna help her milk every dollar of child support they can from me. And truthfully, I just am scared of life after that process. I just want what’s best for our daughter, but it seems like every choice that is made by her is not in the best interest.
I’m fully aware that all of this could just be a ME stupid mind thing, and if so please tell me what I’m reading wrong. I’m so done and so lost.
I appreciate every single one of you and your help, this has and is still helping me more than you can believe.
I must have made math seem funky in this, my wife was 18 when I met her and I was 20, it’s been a short amount of time altogether, since about summer 2021 we have known each other