How can i survive a sexless marriage? 30F & 35M
My husband (35M) & I (30F) don’t have sex on a regular basis. It’ll be a few times in a week then we’ll go 3 months of nothing. & it’s not me. In fact it feels like I’m the only one initiating sex. He constantly makes excuses. Which is always “he’s tired”. A few months ago i put on some lingerie and he was completely unmoved I can’t remember the excuse he made but it broke me. I took it off and put all my lingerie and sexy night wear in storage.
when we do manage to have sex it’s the same old positions that he likes. He doesn’t go down on me unless I ask & that’s a major thing for me & he knows that. It’s my thing.
I recently discovered how much porn he watches and when i told him it feels like he’s replaced me with porn, he got really defensive. The argument was pretty ugly tbh. & although it happened 5 months ago, nothing has changed. I’ve voiced my opinion so many times and I’m frustrated.
I think about cheating but is it worth breaking up my family? Would he even understand?
We have one child together who is now a toddler. He told me once during a heart to heart that my body has changed since the birth of our baby & he’s still adjusting— him saying that hurt a lot. But is that really it? Is he no longer sexually attracted to me because im carrying around baby weight??
Source: Reddit.com
Summary
The article is about a wife who is unhappy with her sex life with her husband. The wife feels like she is the only one who initiates sex and that her husband is not attracted to her anymore. The husband makes excuses for not having sex and the wife feels like he is replacing her with porn. The wife has thought about cheating on her husband but does not want to break up her family.